Hello shanelle! I have an old friend who I was best friends with and it felt all of a sudden she started hating me.. she got into a new relationship and me and her partner did not get a long. I do know that I probably wasn’t the best of friends like being there for her all the time but I was there for her as much as I could be. My question is.. is it better to reach out and apologize for something I may have done, or maybe just leave it be and just be okay with things being left alone because some people are better off apart?
Dearest Dedicated Reader,
First thank you for taking the time to not only read my blog but also reach out with a question.
A gentle reminder that the advice I give is my opinion, you can take it or leave it. Its your Life and yours to live. Friendships are hard to navigate especially when we get older. There’s a lot more outside things that affect you, like you stated a new relationship. I can tell you feel like you gave as much as you could give to this friendship. That’s something you should consider just like with partners in life it isn’t always going to be a 50/50 situation. At times you might only be able to give 25% while your friend or partner might be able to pick up the 75%. Now as for your question the decision is ultimately up to you. Will you continue to think about it for months on end? Do you feel like there is something pulling you to reach out and say your peace? If the answer to those questions is yes then I say go for it. Not for the friendship to reconnect but for your healing. That’s what we are all here doing . Trying to heal ourselves or hopefully trying to walk the healing journey. I think you have to go into it knowing its for you and there may not be a response or there might even be one you wont like to hear. Remember you don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do. You are the boss of you! After writing your old friend you will know that you did what you could and hopefully you will feel some closure that it sounds like you need.
Sincerely Shanelle